In this article, we will discuss what failure to launch is, and why it happens. We will also give parents some tips on how they can help their children transition into independent adulthood.
What does "failure to launch" mean?
- Living at home for extended periods of time
- Refusing to take on adult responsibilities
- Displaying symptoms of arrested development
- Exhibiting problem behaviors, such as drug or alcohol abuse
- Refusing to discuss their plans for the future, or getting upset when the subject comes up
Living at home for extended periods of time
Refusing to take on adult responsibilities
Arrested development, in this case, might mean that your young adult child is still relying on you for things like financial support, rides to appointments, or help with everyday tasks like laundry and grocery shopping. This is common behavior for people who are on the ASD Spectrum, deal with ADD or ADHD, have mental disorders, or have simply never had to live with consequences or expectations.
Displaying symptoms of arrested development
Refusing to discuss their plans for the future
You'll make a communication agreement to keep each other "in the know" while your young adult child works toward independence, without fighting.
Why does failure to launch happen?
What are the consequences of failure to launch?
For parents, failure to launch can be stressful and frustrating. It can lead to conflict within the family and cause financial strain. And it can leave parents feeling like they have no choice but to enable their adult children.
How can parents help their adult children who are failing to launch?
If you think your child might be struggling to launch into adulthood, there are steps you can take to help them transition into independent adulthood. Here are a few tips:
Talk to them about their plans for the future. As I mentioned earlier, one way to tell if your child is struggling is if they refuse to talk about their plans for the future. Try talking with them about what they want to do and see if they have any ideas about what they want their next step in life to be. If they don't have any answers, help them come up with some possibilities. If they are unwilling to talk to you about it, a life coach is a great option.
Encourage them to take on adult responsibilities. One way you can help your child transition into adulthood is by encouraging them to take on adult responsibilities. This can include things like getting a job, paying bills, and taking care of themselves independently.
Helping them to understand that they need to start taking on these responsibilities will go a long way in helping them transition into adulthood. If you need help teaching them the life skills they need, check out our life skill courses for teens.
Stop enabling their ability to refuse to take on adult responsibilities. This means that you need to stop doing things for them that they should be doing for themselves. For example, if they're old enough to get a job, don't keep giving them money. If they're not paying their bills, don't pay for them. This will help them to understand that they need to start taking responsibility for their own lives.
Get them help if they're struggling. If your child is struggling with any of the symptoms we mentioned earlier, such as drug or alcohol abuse, it's important to get them help. There are many resources available to help young adults who are struggling, so don't hesitate to reach out for help.